First Marriage

Simply put, I was blessed to know an incredible woman whom I will always respect and be friends with, but do not love in any romantic way.

We married because we were good friends who thought we had (or could become) more. We were wrong and it just took a long time (15 years) to realize it. We also had many personal challenges that confronted us.  She suffered from a severely disabling illness for many years.

To be honest, I consider it a miracle that Heather and I both survived the past 15 years and have found peace - even joy - in life. Ok, we couldn't figure out how to do that together, but that doesn't make the result any less sweet.

I am very careful with deep relationships. Not because I've been hurt but because they are so very important. Heather I separated 8 years before we divorced because I wanted to make absolutely certain that she was ok emotionally and physically first; and also because I wanted to be 100% certain that I wasn't in love with her. I didn't want to move on and have the past hanging over me or, more importantly, the wife I hope to have someday.

I consider marriage to be the most sacred of unions and something that must be respected and revered at ALL costs. I have a proven track record of sacrificing whatever it takes to improve a relationship to the best of my ability. It's often not enough, but that isn't for a shortage of trying. I'll do anything for a friend and my new wife will definately be the best friend I have.